if you truly love your children - master your human self Inner Child

This was perhaps one of the more abused concepts by Humans.  

In-No-Cence : Noun

In:  verb : To be inside of a thing

No: dis-qualifier, not to be a thing or something

Cence: verb ; to burn incense near or in front of; perfume with incense

Innocence: To use flowery language to "not" enter a state of being spottles with regards to culpability as in sin or treachery or trespass.  Christian Religion teaches sin separates from God.  You are separated from God at birth and so on.  This precludes the concept of being your Inner Child or letting your Inner Child have a say in things.  

As an abused concept let us look at the word "Innocence" and using Parse, Syntax Grammar we break the word down to its roots and look at how language is being used against the Inner Child.  The purpose is to challenge us in our own language in ways we walk ourselves right out of self-enlightenment or to be illuminated from within.  In fact, the Inner Child is not addressed in any Religion.  It may get an honorable mention like:

“ Except you be converted, and become as little children, you shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven ” (Matthew 18:3). “ Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come to me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven ” (Matthew 19:14). Only following God’s will and becoming as little children, can man enter the kingdom of heaven.

You must be innocent to get to your Inner Child.  This means you cannot be a perpetrator.  Be without blemish.   Christianity teaches Humans are sinners and must be cleansed to enter the Kingdom of God.  But the passages above do not say this.  These passages say, be as a child.  

The Quran views the child differently than the Bible;

“Your wealth and your children are only a trial, whereas God, with Him is a great reward (Paradise).” (Quran 64:15)  

Following the teachings of Islam enables a believer to face all life events including the trials the tribulations and the triumphs.  The correct Islamic advice for raising and rearing children covers all aspects of life.  Just like Islam itself, it is holistic advice.  Physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing are all of equal importance.  It is interesting to note that Islam has always covered the rights of children. The Islamic view of childhood states that it is a unique period in an individual’s life.[2]  This is in sharp contrast to western/European ideology where the concept of childhood was not addressed until the 16th century.[3]  It is not that the west did not have children or young people but rather they considered children to be small adults with the same needs and wants as adults.

The Quran adds enlightenment and discernment to the Child which is not the same as the Adult, whereas the West or Christianity looks at children as a time of playing instead of development.  

So along comes Psychotherapy and the Child is further distanced from the Human by stating basically Childhood Traumas are playing out in our inner-child and we must visit those traumas.  The revisit of trauma in the inner child devastates the Inner Child with self-induced make-believe traumas from inaccurate memories that have faded and dulled over time.

Now add the uncaring nature of the world and Humans in general and how are you supposed to stay innocent.  That is why the word break down above is so important.  You were never meant to access your Inner Child EVER!

The only way you can access your Inner Child and enter the Kingdom within yourself where God resides within you is through Desire having qualities of Innocence and Purity.  This strategy is implemented through the process we call CHOICES.   

Your Choices determine your outcomes and how high you go is proportional to the quality of your CHOICES.  When making a Choice in Purity and Innocence the only way you could pull that off is because you Desired a choice to be realized in Purity and Innocence.   Thus, you can work your way out of a Dark place, no matter how dark and come back to your Inner Child which is that aspect of you that Connect with God or Love.  The Child is Innocence and Purity by its very nature.  

So, how do you get to your Inner Child safely.  You must master Darkness and then the Human Condition so that your internal mechanisms will allow your Inner Child to come forward.   These inner mechanisms are the compilations of the Psyche which acts as a protector to the Inner Child.  The Inner Child is not in the brain, it is in the Heart.  One way to find the Inner Child in your Heart is look into other's Hearts around you.  No law exists saying you cannot look.